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September 18, 2011

Is it a Weakness to Cry?

Author: JenniferMaster1

My daughter, who is a single mom, was having a garage sale in preparation to move across the country. I offered to keep her 4-year-old boy with me. While we were eating lunch, I couldn’t keep back the tears because I felt so sad that he would be moving thousands of miles away. I had developed quite the attachment with him, not only because he lived nearby, but because he was in my daycare three to four days a week and often stayed with me and my husband on weekends when his mother worked.

Is crying a sign of weakness? Are we better off just being tough and not getting so emotional about situations?

As children we may have cried over spilled milk, being called a name or scraping our knee. As a teenager we may have cried when being bullied, not chosen for a cheer or sport team, or when losing a girlfriend or boyfriend. As adults we may cry over strained relationships, financial worries, traumatic injuries and illness or the death of a loved one. How many of us have cried over a fictional but heart-wrenching movie?

Whatever the reason we may feel we need to cry, it is imperative to let it out. Whether we cry out of fear, loss or sadness, stuffing these feelings inside and not letting them out will literally cause blocks in our energy systems. If not dealt with through lengthy traditional therapy or quickly removing them through an energy healing session, they will eventually cause physical illness and wreck havoc in various areas of our lives.

When we open up and let our emotions flow in a healthy way, we can be more sensitive and compassionate with others as we can understand their need to cry and experience sorrow as well. Whether we are crying for our own sorrow or  crying for the trials of others, it is important to let it out.

Jesus Christ was a beautiful example of mourning and crying with those who mourned. In Matthew, Chapter 11 we find Christ has been called to bless Lazarus who was dying. Jesus did not arrive until Lazarus had died. In verse 11, Jesus knows that Lazarus has died. “…and after that he saith unto them, Our friend Lazarus sleepeth; but I go, that I may wake him out of sleep.”

Knowing that he would raise Lazarus from the dead, Jesus still mourned with the family who was sorrowing over Lazarus’ death. In verse 33, “When Jesus therefore saw her (Mary the sister of Lazarus) weeping, and the Jews also weeping which came with her, he groaned in the spirit and was troubled”. In verse 35, “Jesus wept.”

Jesus, the son of God, was definitely not a man of weakness. He was the ultimate example of showing love and compassion by weeping and comforting those who were sorrowful.

We must be compassionate with ourselves and realize that it is perfectly normal to feel feelings of sorrow, grief and despair. We can embrace these feelings and let them move out naturally so they will process as they should.

If you are embarrassed to let others see you cry, find a quiet, private place to let these feelings out. Or if you have a hard time crying and letting these feelings out, take up cooking and slice an onion to get the tears flowing. 🙂 Better yet, find a movie that will tug at your heart strings and watch it alone. Don’t fight the tears, just let them come.

Please don’t be an “emotion stuffer” or you will suffer!

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2 Responses to “Is it a Weakness to Cry?”

  1. citymanual says:

    wow! super great tips! thank you =)

  2. John Herrera says:

    This really answered my drawback, thank you!